“Honest conflict has more social value than dishonest harmony”
It’s difficult to command respect without being a jerk about it. There are two ends of the “commanding respect” spectrum. On the one hand, you’ve got Rambo. He’s tough, he’s fearless, and he is ready to fight. On the other hand, you’ve got Mr. Rogers. He’s gentle, he’s calm, and he’s always ready to talk. Joe Rogan is somewhere in between, perhaps a bit closer to Rambo. This video teaches you how to taper your toughness with kindness in order to command respect without losing friends.
Treat yourself with respect. People are looking to you to determine how they can treat you and what they can get away with. Treat yourself with respect.
Be worthy of being respected. If you think about what that word “worthy” means, it means that you’re worth being respected. You have to do the difficult things, have the hard conversations, be a man of your word, and live in integrity with who you are and what you’re saying.
Communicate the expectation. We communicate the expectation verbally and non-verbally. Communicate with the people who you are trying to command respect from what the expectation is.
Uphold the expectation. If you don’t uphold the expectation, it’s not really an expectation; you’re just hoping and wishing that somebody will treat you with respect. If there is an expectation, there’s a line you need to keep in place. If you don’t, you’re not going to command the respect that you deserve. People are going to get out of line sometimes. You can let that line be blurred and muddied, or you can say “No. This is where I put my foot down.” Of course, you can do that tactfully and respectfully, but all the same, you need to put your foot down and uphold that expectation.
Remove from your life those who refuse to respect you. If you recognize through your consistent effort in maintaining these first four steps that there are people in your life who are never going to respect you the way you need to be respected, you need to eliminate those people from your life. It’s challenging. It’s tough. It’s not fun. But it is required if you expect to command any level of respect in your life.
Joe Rogan has the most popular podcast on the planet. And I think a huge portion of that can be credited to the fact that his authenticity, especially in the face of conflict, is respected by a huge portion of his audience.
So in this video, we’re going to talk about 5 things that you can do which will command respect in tough situations without acting like a jerk.
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