Personally, I always saw something unnatural in all those ‘think positive’ and ‘force yourself to feel happy’ statements.
I believe that sadness is completely natural and, sometimes, you don’t even have to have a reason to feel sad.
It just happens, it might be a hormone or just some physical reaction. You might just be tired and that’s how your body lets you know.
What do psychologists think about sadness:
Feeling sad does not mean that there is something wrong with you, or with anything for that matter.
You don’t have to feel bad if there are so many good things going on in your life and you still feel sad for some reason. It’s nothing wrong. There’s nothing wrong with you. We all feel sad from time to time despite what’s going on in our life. It’s natural, don’t try to force change it. Let it pass like a wave.Running away from that sadness and forcing yourself to escape into ‘positive thinking’ just because you assume being sad is wrong, that’s what creates the disbalance in your system. And this disturbance might result in something more serious with time, like clinical depression.
Ancient philosophers believed that accepting bad moods is essential to living a full life. And sadness has long been a trigger for introversion and artistic creativity!
Psychologists who study human feelings say that sadness communicates disengagement and acts as a social signal for others to show support, help and come closer. It enhances empathy, compassion, connectedness and moral and aesthetic sensibility.
It serves as a form of social contraction that reinforces the already established connections we have with others.
These are the psychological benefits of sadness and mild bad moods:
Recent scientific experiments document the benefits of mild bad moods.
By manipulating people’s moods and emotions, researchers measured the benefits from ‘negative’ feelings.
Their discovery was that bad moods often work as unconscious alarm signals, promoting more attentive and detailed thinking style. In other words, bad moods help us to be more focused in difficult situations.
They discovered that feeling sad and being in a bad mood has a couple of positive benefits:
1. Better Memory
In one study, a bad mood (caused by bad weather) resulted in people better rememberingthe details of a shop they just left. Bad mood can also improve eyewitness memories by reducing the effects of various distractions, like irrelevant, false or misleading information.
2. More Accurate Judgments
A mild bad mood also reduces some biases and distortions in how people form impressions. For instance, slightly sad judges formed more accurate and reliable impressions about others because they processed details more effectively. We found that bad moods also reduced gullibility and increased skepticism when evaluating urban myths and rumors, and even improved people’s ability to more accurately detect deception. People in a mild bad mood are also less likely to rely on simplistic stereotypes.
Experiments found that when happy and sad participants were asked to perform a difficult mental task, those in a bad mood tried harder and persevered more. They spent more time on the task, attempted more questions and produced more correct answers.
4. Better Communication
5. Increased Fairness
Experiments found that a mild bad mood caused people to pay greater attention to social expectations and norms, and they treated others less selfishly and more fairly.
There is just something pure in embracing your sadness!
Many of the greatest achievements of the human spirit were accomplished as a result of sadness, and most of their produces were created as a result of embracing and transmuting it.
So sadness is not just as good for us as happiness, but by denying ourselves its virtues, we are possibly rejecting the most real, most human, and most valuable part of ourselves.
You are neither supposed to be happy nor sad all of the time, let the waves flow naturally.
Sadness is a signal that tells us to give attention to ourselves, to make a little introspection and reconnect with our truth.
Source: Life Coach Code